Have you been in that situation where your mind isn’t thinking about anybody in particular, but just when you see someone, your mind is able to say a lot about them, even the not so pleasant part of it?
For example at work, you’re working at your desk in your department, thinking about no one or anything but your work. Just when someone walks in and you see them, your mind starts saying lots of things about them like, “look at his face. It is all squeezed up”, “look at his shoes. This man must be really poor”, “look at that lady’s dress. It is too short. Is she a prostitute?” etc etc
Your mind didn’t program any of these statements about them until you saw them.
Statements like these reduce your integrity whether someone hears them or not.
So how can you stop this from happening?
REFUSE TO SEE WITH YOUR EYES.
How?
Decide NOT to look at someone beyond looking into their eyes.
Decide NOT to look beyond an image / think deep into or about an image.
Decide to make/give excuses for people about any ‘flaws’ you see even if your mind brings those filthy thoughts and comments.
This bad act of your mind is almost involuntary; but should you DECIDE good, it will become voluntary (only at your wish).
Sometimes, it is not all about seeing negatives. Sometimes, it changes to become this; you see ‘positives’ and you ‘realize or kinda verify’ a “negative” thought you have about yourself.
With comments like, “Look at her, she got the perfect hourglass body, I have got nothing”, “She got the pointed nose, while my nose is round and not beautiful” , “He got full moustache and beard, while mine seem protein deficient”, and so on…
Both situations (seeing negatives in others or yourself) does no good but a lot of evil to your soul: Seeing negatives in yourself as a result of the so called ‘positives’ you see in others only weakens your soul to embrace depression, anxiety, jealousy, hate etc.
Seeing negatives in others also weakens your love for others, it causes you to become proud, envious, backbiting, malicious etc
All these are not good vibes that can help your soul. They just degrade your soul to become a monster you never were. If you don’t kill this ‘monster’ before it grows into anything, you will not be able to tame/control it.
Love is the only option.
Love is the only alternative.
And how can you love in this situation?
It is refusing to see with your eyes.
When your eyes don’t see, your mind don’t process and your mouth wouldn’t speak anything.
Even if your mind forces a comment into your head/mouth, use your will power to shut those comments down; pull down every stronghold.
If the person’s legs are crooked, you haven’t seen them. If his teeth are bad, you haven’t seen them too. Etc etc
STAY BLESSED.
I Love You!