(How to beat a bully at his own game!)

This name is likely to face bullying. We all see it to be a beautiful name, but a bully wouldn’t see that. They would capitalize on any negative related to this name and bring living hell to broad day light in a girl’s life.

But the best way to ‘fight’ a bully is to ‘choke’ him/her on his own words. How are you going to do this? I will show you in a minute. Hang on.

You see, a bully’s game is like a lawsuit in court; it is not about who says the truth or what. It is about who has the most words, most evidence and much confidence. This is what most victims of bully lack. But if you have all these in abundance, you are going to be no match for a bully.

A bully is just a broken person seeking someone to release his/her frustration on in order to feel better about him/herself. Since this act is not actually fulfilling in nature, bullies continue in this act as a crutch until they fix their brokenness. A bully can continue in this act even after school into the job field. You may see it as teasing, but mehn, that dude/girl hasn’t fix him/herself yet.

They say hurt people hurt people. This is right.

As stinging people don’t even smell their own odor, that is the same way a bully has no idea the extent and gravity of the damage he/she is inflicting on his victim. He may see it as a mere fun, or happy moment, but his/her victim is being scared deeply, and maybe even for life.

It is an offence to keep quiet as a victim of bully and expect the bully to ‘come back to his/her senses’.

Jesus, our role model and savior didn’t fight the devil by expecting that he will come back to his senses. No! He defeated the devil with the words of his mouth (punch lines). If ‘a whole Satan’ flee at Jesus’ words, how much more a ‘god damn bully’?

You die twice when you fear/act in fear.

Now hold up, I am not saying we are going to fight violently with a bully. No! We are not going to fight him, but deal with him tactically in his own game.

The first shot to fire is your words. Let’s take our topic name for example:

A lady named Island is likely to be ridiculed and told to be alone, because, “No man is an island”. Okay, let me make this into a real chat so that you would get what I mean.

Bully: Hey Island, how is your river flowing?… hahahaha… desert Island. I pity you. Why would your parents give you such a horrible name? Well, I guess they knew you would be as horrible a  person as your name….hahhahaa…

Island: you done?

Bully: oh come on. Stop being a hard girl, because you aren’t hard. You are only surrounded by water. The last time I checked, water makes things softer, island.

Island: I didn’t know you were this ignorant.

Bully: ignorant?… hahhahahha… you forgotten that it is said, ‘No man is an island?’ Nobody wants to be like you.

Island: of course, no man is an island. And for your information, keep this in your thick skull, I am a lady, not a man. So no man can be an island. God damn it.

Bully: [furious] Hey hey… what do you mean? Do you want to insult me?

Island: No. I am answering somebody who is acting the fool. And I guess you want to know why my celebrity parents decided to call me Island? Well listen up, my name is island because, like an island, I am independent, I am beautiful, I am self-sufficient, I unite people into a close circle for divine unity, I am graced by the presence of abundance (water). I lack nothing good no matter how small I am, etc. so the next time you come at me to laugh at my name, make sure you have look up the meaning of your name.

I got one, and it is a thoughtful name, what is yours? I bet you aren’t even proud of your name, because you aren’t even living it. What a pity? See you at the other flip side of life, where life is better without miserable bullies like yourself. Get a life, and get to know how sweet life is independently. Stop depending on people, causing them misery so that you can enjoy a short-lived happiness. That is not life. If you think you got happiness and that you are content. Well guess what, I got joy. Good bye sorry ass.

Bully: [miserably speechless]

THE END…

This is how you deal with a bully with the first shot; by knowing who you are, what you are, what  your worth and identity is, the meaning, power, and even origin behind your name.  Whatever the bully is targeting and painting negative, try to find a positive aspect of that same thing, and you would overcome the bully one time [light overcomes darkness. Weeping/complaining doesn’t over come darkness].

If he is teasing your body, let him know that God didn’t use 24 hours to create a junk, so you are no junk, but wonderfully and fearfully made. The fearful here doesn’t mean you are scary. It means you are awe-some. Thus, people are in awe when they see your uniqueness.

So, if people want to act like blind bats and not see the good behind the ‘curtains’, then rather feel sorry for them, because they are pitiful and miserable.

Don’t fall flat for a bully to trample upon. You were created to rule over the whole earth. The only thing you trample upon underfoot is the devil himself. And if that devil has entered into a human being as a bully, then guess what, that bully will suffer like the devil under your feet. Don’t let him have you under his feet rather: Copy your savior’s method; Get a word (light) for him to clear away his darkness of bullying.  Don’t expect that a bully would change automatically/overnight. Even if that would happen, decide to aid it for the ‘recovery’ to be faster.

Alright, the second shot to fire is to find out the bully’s weak point. Check to see if he is bad in academics, sports, or anything which you are good at or can learn to be good at. Should you find that, make sure you become good at that in a balanced and stable way. Then, when he comes around with his bullying, you say it to his face, “How I wish this bullying energy could be channeled into your academics. I bet you would be far better in class. Better luck next time.” Then walk away.

If he tries to worry you more, report him to the school administration or employer at work.

That is all for the second fire.

The third fire is to use your strength. After you have lodged a complaint about the harassment those bullies give you in school or at work for about 3 times, prepare your strength to fight.

Should the bullies still come at you, fight them with any and everything. In that case, should you be reported, you would tell the principal or employer that you lodge a complaint, but the problem still persisted, and that showed you that nothing has been done about the situation. Therefore, since they came at you and you were threatened, you had to defend yourself. And that is what you did. Simple!

Wherever they take this, you wouldn’t be guilty for anything.

Make sure that you gave that bully a good whip. After that, walk like a free man.

Bullies are mere human beings. You are not to fear them. You are to correct them. And however way you can do to correct them humanly, do it. Fear Not!

If they want to make your life, and even your future miserable, don’t allow them. Teach them a lesson of a life-time that they would live to teach their grandkids.

DON’T STAY SILENT HATCHING THOSE NEGATIVE FEELINGS, AND THOUGHTS THE BULLIES PUT IN YOUR HEAD. DON’T ACT DEFENDLESS AND BUY INTO THE LIES OF A BULLY.

It is God who created you, and everything He says about you is true and right. Any bully or person who wants to say otherwise MUST be treated like a devil. And like a devil, you MUST rebuke and resist him, and he would FLEE from you. Keep that devil of a person under your feet, until he sees the light (of God) to become more loving.

Until we meet again, it is byeeee for now.

I hope to see you next time all smiling, because you would have fearfully and boldly put a bully in his place; under your feet. Amen.

Stay Blessed.

I Love You.

Stay Strong.