Where my ladies at?

Where my single ladies at?

Where my single horny ladies at… lol?

What do y’all do when you are feeling lonely? You call that boy right? Bad girl…J

Ladies, can we chat? Let’s chat. Let’s talk about things. Come on, let’s reason together:

You know how Hollywood has sold us romance movies for years, such that as little children, without even knowing what love is, we aspired to have something like what we saw in the movies, Cinderella, Rosalinda (soap operas), etc? Will I be right if I said those were all fake? Well, not too fast. That isn’t our focus right now.

I want to ask us ladies, why do we ‘need’ men so much? Why do we need those emotions so much? Cuddling, chilling, Netflix-ing, etc? Or are we all sluts low key? I know that may sound hard, but hang on.

Did you know that you don’t need men? Men need you instead. You are something of great value that they can’t despise. Yet, as if it was our ribs which were taken to create these men, y’all been acting so needy. If y’all, with ‘full ribs’ act needy of men this much, then how will scriptures be fulfilled?

Scriptures makes it clear that it isn’t good for the man to be alone. When Adam saw the “Whole-Man” (woman), he affirmed that the woman was now bone of his bones, and flesh of his flesh. He NEEDED the woman. Even God knew. So why do y’all act so needy as if it was y’all who said to Adam, “Damn boy, you are the bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh”? Masculine energy everywhere. It’s sounds awkward right? That is what y’all are doing nowadays: You see the guy over there, and you suddenly begin to have sexual feelings, and emotional high; “damn, you so fine. You must be the bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh.”

Are y’all now lusting after these men? I thought the Bible didn’t even consider that: It is written in scripture, “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. [Matthew 5:28]” The Bible knew that man NEEDS the woman so much that if it doesn’t put a boundary on that need or thirst of these men they will lust after all the women they see, and have them all. But just like one pipe connected to its (eternal, God) source is enough to give you all the water you need, men, you don’t need to have multiple women in your life in other to be content or full. ONE IS ENOUGH! She will give you all the world’s goodness you desire. Just makes sure to maintain her properly, cultivate and guard her. That is all Man!

Listen up my ladies, I am single too, and I understand all the feelings you have been going through; loneliness, horniness, feeling alone, secluded, tired, in the wrong environment, feeling hasty to get married to have some sex, name them. I feel them too by God’s Grace. But recently, the LORD opened my eyes to some truth. The truth is, your singleness is your cultivating period. Your whole life is like a field, and your singleness period is the period of your cultivation. If you dread this period, and don’t use it right, when you get to the next phase of your life (marriage), there will be no good fruit available for you to enjoy. Just weeds! Why? Because you didn’t cultivate your land (life and mindset). Hence, only wild (medicinal, bitter) weeds (hard lessons of life) will be available. And that is where you will understand the Word of the Lord which says; “for lack of knowledge, my people perish.”

Have you ever asked yourself, “Now that I am feeling horny as a single lady, and would have loved to have some sex, if I was married, and my husband wasn’t available in the moment to give me good sex, what would I do?”

You learn self-control while you are single, not when you are married.

You learn the truth of Love when you are single. Cos boy, that man can do something really annoying to you, but you have to love, and submit to him. How are you going to do that when you haven’t learnt or cultivated it during your singleness period? Build habits while you are single, and when you get married, they will come automatically. They will be like weapons in your possession which you draw for any battle. Don’t create only one weapon, to use for all battles in your marriage: The sickle which is used to harvest crops is not used to slice them or weed the grass. Get the appropriate weapon for the appropriate battle. Marriage is a battle (the devil doesn’t like it) just like our Christian walk, BUT IT IS WORTH IT, AND SWEET!

My dear single lady, develop some skills. Don’t fall for society’s predefined paths. For example, if you are horny, get a man. No! You can try other things to discover any other working alternative. For instance, recently, I felt the need to call a guy to just have video call with him. My spirit didn’t want to, or didn’t see the need to, but my emotions were throwing tantrums. Guess what happened: Even though I had that thought which I planned to do, I was distracted with a Whatsapp message, and then social media (Instagram and YouTube). When I was done, I was full, and satisfied, and didn’t see the need to call the guy. Bingo! I won. The Spirit won. Exactly my point. Don’t create neuron pathways in your brains which seem like highways; once a car (an idea or thought or feelings) hit that road (mind), it must get to the end (the dreadful act). No!

Your rib wasn’t taken to create any man. God didn’t tell you that it wasn’t good for you to be alone, so he had to create a man for you. No! Like a dog, you are the rib that every man is searching for. Like a precious jewel, when he finds you, he is going to treat you right, because you mean the whole world to him. Have you seen a man buy Royce Rolls and play with it, or allowed his baby to make scratches on the car’s body, or just abandoned it in the rain for it to get spoiled? No! Never! Even if he was ‘insane’, and wants to do that, people around would not allow him to, because they know the value and worth of that car. In the same way, a man who knows your worth and value wouldn’t treat you anyhow. He will treat you like you are (A Queen), not even like you deserve (thus your flaws wouldn’t change his awe about you. #Jesus’ love for the church).

My ladies, did you know that it is written in the scriptures that you shouldn’t throw your pearls before pigs? Matthew 7:6NIV _“Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.” Not all men have the wisdom of God to take care of you, and nurture you like the queen you are. So even though you are a woman and a precious jewel for man, some men don’t know that yet; they haven’t gotten that knowledge, or revelation yet. And so like Simon in the Bible, some men will try to buy you with money, but like Paul, you need to tell them to go away (perish) with their money. Don’t belittle yourself for any man to treat you anyhow. You are a jewel, you are a pearl. If they are pigs, then you aren’t supposed to throw yourself to them; they will trample upon you under their foot, and turn to tear you to pieces. Don’t think you are wiser, or know better than God (scriptures). No!

As you know your worth, give yourself to THE MAN WHO ALSO KNOWS YOUR WORTH and appreciates it. Don’t let your emotions shouts like sirens to distract you. You are not your emotions. You are a Spirit, and as a Spirit, your only food is THE WORD OF GOD (obeying what it says). If you think, and act like you are wiser than God, and so allow your emotions to lead you, you will crush. Don’t say, if I want to kiss him, I will do so; if I want to have sex, I will do so; if I am feeling lonely and want the boy in my bed, I will do just that. Such an emotionally-driven life is dangerous.

There are some boys that you shouldn’t associate with. Emotionally, they may be sweet, but spiritually, they may be a dry dessert covered in dust. Thus, they may make you feel good in your feelings, but you will always have this hunger and thirst in your spirit (dessert). You will have this knowing that something is lost, or something isn’t right, or “this ain’t it”.

And also, NEVER have sex with any man whom YOU ARE NOT MARRIED TO. I don’t care what society says, or what the money laws are predicting is right. If you aren’t married, don’t have sex! If he is your boyfriend, DON’T HAVE SEX with him! If he is just your friend, DON’T PERFORM ORAL SEX on him. #Oral Sex is still SEX!

Finally, TRY AND BUILD YOUR SINGLEHOOD. Nurture some good attitudes and habits. You will need it in your marriage. Build your Christian faith from ‘church-going’ to intimacy with the Holy Spirit.

My lady, you are a Whole-Man. Not man as in the male gender, but man as in mankind. You are Whole. You are complete. Begin to build yourself. You are the Helper, and like the Holy Spirit, you don’t need to be needy: With or without a man, you should be FUNCTIONING CORRECTLY. Build yourself. Those wild emotions are lying: You don’t need to fulfill to survive. They are just fantasy. The reality may be different. Work with what you’ve got now, Singleness, and MAKE IT WORTHWHILE.

The Lord Bless and Keep You, and Make His Face Shine Upon You In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

I LOVE U.

BYE