Dear ladies, you are not to ‘love’ your boyfriends.

“Perfect love covers a multitude of sins.” This kind of love is reserved for only your husband. Why is that? It is because, in other to live with someone for so long, you would have to forgive them of lots of ‘sins’, as they do same for you.

If you should love your boyfriend with this kind of love, you would be making a big mistake, since ‘a multitude of sins’ would be overlooked. Even if your boyfriend is a potential suitor, you are NOT to love him; you are to be his friend.

Don’t love your boyfriend. Not loving him will keep your eyes and your mind open so that you can see any of his flaws which you would have to be cautious about. Being able to see his flaws with a clear mind would help you decide which ones are bearable and which ones are disastrous and should be avoided at all cost.

Don’t tell me you love a man who only sees red and smells blood when he is angry, and can do anything hurtful to you. If you think you can bear it because ‘you are in love’, please think about your unborn children: Choose a great father for them for Christ’s sake. If you should condone this obviously disastrous anger issue of your spouse while you are dating, you would see worse in the marriage.

As human, you would err. If you think you can accommodate this character flaw by ‘being very careful’ around him, you deceive yourself. You are human just like him, and as human, you would make mistakes, which would probably get him angry.

How would God treat you if he were angry with you? Would he cause an accident to happen to you, so that ‘he would feel better?’ obviously No. His perfect love covers the multitude of your sins. If this lover of yours says that he is a Christian, with the Spirit of God in him (speaks in tongues), then let him show you the Christ in his ‘ian’ through his deeds. If Christ is his head, then he ought to have the attitude of Christ in him.

Don’t have any ‘love’ feeling for any man except your husband. Allow your boyfriend to develop his love for you while you two are dating, and he will show you more love in marriage.

The husband is commanded by God to love his wife (like Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her). With this scripture in mind, let your boyfriend get the space needed to practice loving you like Christ while you’re dating. Stop crippling him with your emotional love. It will make him lazy to really get to know how to love you like Christ did for the church.

The church wasn’t ‘perfect’ before Christ loved her. He loved her with her flaws and all. This is a hard thing to do. So give your boyfriend room and space to cultivate this kind of love for you. Don’t rush!

Like your boyfriend per what he shows you. It is not selfishness. It is rather safety and caution.

Note: A man who says the sweetest things, yet does the most evil thing is a LIAR. His actions is a reflection of his heart. So instead of listening to what he says, look at what he does. Talk is cheap, and real men don’t like cheap!

Love ONLY your husband.

Stay Blessed.