Have you ever wondered how we fall in love? I mean you meet this person, you haven’t known from anywhere, but in a few weeks of meeting, you begin to have this euphoria feelings for them. Isn’t this weird?

You know, even their families who grew up with them are still discovering some parts of who they are, yet we who didn’t know them from Adam just get fascinated by them and want to spend the rest of our lives with them. Doesn’t the thought of this scare you sometimes?

Love is a tricky thing. Some even call it a drug. I agree in a sense, because if we weren’t “drugged”, how could we have taken such a big risk to be with somebody who is about twenty something years old when we have only been with them for about 2 years, or even less?

Love is a drug, and whether we wish to admit it or not, we have all being served with some doses of it before. Some have relapsed severally, while others are on their way to join the club. Its interesting. But is this the way?

It scares me that broad is the way which leads to destruction, and yet, lots of us are on this broad way of love. Is this the right way to go? Is this love? How come this kind of love doesn’t sustain some of us? How come even though it is not as “durable” yet we invest so much into it, paying any amount for it; our time, resources, families, among many others? This is really interesting.

I got some insight today guys: How come some people fall in love, and yet they get beaten by those same people whom they said they loved? How come some people fall in love, and yet get killed by their lovers? Weren’t they in love? Or were they given a different dose of the love drug? This is really interesting.

I said I got some insight right? Well, this is it: I figured that we may be getting it all wrong with this love thing. I mean, let’s look at the business world, they don’t make business deals or decisions while they are drunk, right?. They don’t make decisions when they are high. If the business deal came to them while they were high perhaps, they would ask for another time to visit the deal. They wouldn’t dare make any deal while they are high because they know that they may lose money or assets. And since their lose may be their competitor’s or the other person’s gain, they wouldn’t dare be high in a business meeting.

One more thing, many CEOs or board of directors don’t make decisions when they are being forced or pressured. No! They make decisions at their own pace and time. They go through all the pros and cons of the deal, understand it, and estimate how much they will gain.

Business is all about gaining, and even in the midst of risk, if there is a high chance of gain, business will go into those deals.

Now let’s look at our lives. Do you know that any decision you make don’t only affect you, but it also affect your environment be it your children (now or in the future), parents, siblings, and even your generation? So if your life ‘weighs’ this much, would you make any decision about it while drunk, high or not stable? Would any decision made in this condition yield any positive result?

Some may argue that they have been able to make good decisions while drunk or not in their normal state of mind. Good for them, but that is not the usual. They may be the exception; congratulations to them. But to us who are the masses, a new light has dawned upon us. Death was set before us, but now the option of life has come. I hope you will choose life.

The life that has been set before us is that, when you meet a person, seek to find out their character FIRST before you allow your heart sound ringing bells. Your heart (Love) is the celebration, and your eyes (scanning their character) is the work. We work, and gain before we celebrate. We don’t celebrate before we begin to think about what work is expected of us.

If you check out a person’s character like a business CEO will do to a business deal, check out all the pros and cons of their character, cross any possible fakeness till you find their authentic self, your love (heart) will have a stable ground to stand upon.

Yes, I understand that not everybody is perfect. But just like an A+ grade includes an 80%, 90% and even a 100%, an 80% perfection (with 20% imperfection) is better than a 50% perfection (with a 49% imperfection). You get what I mean? Every business has risk, but how big is the risk and how great is its accompanying gain? You get what I mean? Yeah.

Check out CHARACTER first, before you FALL IN LOVE.

Don’t think that those 2 years or more of the dating period is enough to know a person whose families are still trying to figure them out daily.

Take your time, no rush. Study them carefully to know how they are like, so that you would know where you two uniformly meet.

Some people could come around as sheep, but they may be wolves. Some may look unpleasant as dirty wolves, but it may all be a mask hiding/shielding their sheep self.

Check out character before you fall in love my dear. It would help you and your family, and your children will thank you for being this BRAVE!

THE LORD HELP US ALL.

Amen.