Why do men love to work, but ladies love to cuddle and have companionship?
It is because of what they were made from.

Man was created from the earth, “Then the LORD God formed the man
from the dust of the ground” [Genesis 2:7 NLT], the woman was made
from a rib (man): “While the man slept, the LORD God took out one of the
man’s ribs and closed up the
opening. Then the LORD God made a woman from
the rib, and he brought her to the man.” [Genesis 2:21-22 NLT]

Men would love to “die” on their job, while the woman would love
to die in the arms of her lover.

 Men, don’t worry if your lady likes to sleep in your arms or lay on
your chest. That is where she came from; your chest (ribs)... lol

If man loves his job, and the woman loves her man, how can we live together
without conflict and depravity/ hindrances? Besides, the Bible says, “How
can two walk together unless they agree?” So how can man, the lover of
work and the earth, stay with, the woman, the cuddling expert? The
man can’t cuddle all day or else he will lose out on his job, his
identity, his purpose, and his fulfillment. The woman on the other
hand can’t handle or bear that her man works all day without meeting her needs (emotionally).
She will feel neglected, abandoned, and even emotionally malnourished.

What do we do? The word is compromise (with understanding).

If the woman recognizes that it isn’t her man’s fault that he was made from
the sand, and it isn’t her doing that she was not made from the soil but from a
rib (the man’s rib), she will be a lot happier. She will know that her
husband’s love for his work isn’t a sign of abandonment, but a ‘calling’, an
identity and a source of fulfillment. Actually, he working is he being his true
self (soil man).

Also, the woman and the man need to see that the woman desiring to be
touched, cuddled, and have all those interpersonal communication isn’t the
woman’s fault, but this is how she was made. And her makeup as a woman is
perfect just the way it is.

For the man and woman to live together in agreement in spite of their
natural differences, the man ought to love his wife. Loving his wife
is about laying down his life for her just like Christ Jesus did for the
church.

However, laying down his life for his spouse doesn’t mean he doesn’t go to
work. It means that he needs to sacrifice a part of his ‘work time’ for his
wife. It means, man don’t be selfish with your time. You could divide your work
hours in an 80-20 percentage: 80% solely for you and the 20% uncompromised for
her. This 20% of your time which is your wife’s shouldn’t be robbed. You should
give it to her undiluted, and faithfully just as you would give your tithe to
God. This way, you would be fulfilled in your purpose and job, and you would be
achieving greatly at home too. If your wife sees that you give her that 20% of
quality time and companionship, she wouldn’t complain about the other 80% which
is yours.

The success of this division of your time depends on the quality of the 20%
time you give her. If you don’t give it well, your wife will crave for more.
This will put a huge demand on your 80% which was supposed to be all yours.

Men, note this also: As you are men, and made from the earth to ‘work’, if
you feel that this 20% of quality time for wifey is weighing too much on you,
or it is making you feel too emotional, and almost feminine, you can make this
20% quality time an ‘achievement task’. Thus, instead of just saying ‘sweet’
words, and doing ‘sweet’ things for your spouse, try to accomplish a task for
your wife. Accomplishing a task will make you feel like you are ‘working’.
Thus, you can ask, “Babe, what do you need me to do for you?”
If she tells you, do it well as unto the LORD. This will make her happy.

Keep in mind those tasks, and the feelings it gave you when you accomplished
them. Don’t ask wifey about them again. Just ‘voluntarily’ keep doing those
tasks for her when you see that she needs them done. This will feel romantic
for her, and purposeful for you too. You would be happy.

Ladies, please make it easy for your men to please you.
They are not like you, women and they were not formed from the same material
you were made from. So they can’t think (on the spot emotionally) like
you do. Make things easy for them: Remind them if need be,
appreciate them always, smile sweetly, and be happy for him.

“How can the woman also help her man be a man without nagging, or
resenting him?”

Woman, your man was made from the earth. He isn’t like you, he isn’t a
masculine woman. He is a MAN, so reason with him.

Knowing that your man needs to work, don’t nag him to stay with you always.
He can’t! He will die if he does that. If you love him, reason with him. Help
him to succeed.

My lady, you should divide your time into percentage too just as your man
did. Divide your own time to make up for the 80% time which your husband uses
and needs to work by finding your interests, nice hobbies, and good friends,
etc. This which will give you the satisfaction and fulfillment you need.

It will help you, your husband and the marriage as a whole. It will also
make you a happy person. Doing things which you love, and which makes you happy
(without neglecting your husband) will make you glow. This glow will
motivate your husband to love you more. Thus, loving you will feel easier for
him to do.

The man was made from the earth, while the woman was made from the rib.
Understand this!

“‘At last!’ the man exclaimed. ‘This
one is bone from my bone and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman’
because she was taken from man. This explains why a man leaves his
father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united
into one. Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no
shame.” [Genesis 2:23-25 NLT].