The best way to be immune to a narcissist or any ‘evil’ person is to look out for yourself.

How do I mean by this?

You see how the Bible admonishes us to love our neighbors as ourselves? It means you are the measure of the love you give. You are the measure of the limit of love you give to others.

Thus, if you give yourself a ‘2’, others should get at most a ‘2’. If you get a ‘3’, they can get nothing more than a ‘3’. Should you give yourself a ‘2’, yet give others a ‘3’, then you are breaking the commandment of God. You are Not loving your neighbor AS yourself, but more than yourself. The conjunction in the command was ‘As’, not ‘MORE THAN’ or even ‘LESS THAN’, but AS YOURSELF.

Now, this is the mindset of narcissists: “USE, and DISCARD!”

Narcissists don’t form any emotional bond with people no matter how much you pour into them. Their insecurities (fear of abandonment, and the fear of failure, among others) don’t allow them to form emotional bonds. This odd fear and way of life is ingrain in the neural structure of their brain as ‘normal’.

Narcissists would rather use people for their own convenience. After a while when they no longer have any need of you, no matter how much you may have invested into them, they will discard you in a heartbeat. That is what their “messed up” brain structure deems fit. Narcissists are fearful and wicked.

May I tell you this; instead of you wasting years to prove yourself as a good person to the narcissist, rather prove your goodness to your own self. It would be of a greater good to you. Be your own lover. Love on you. Narcissists are blind. They are ‘color’ blind, and as such, no matter how much you shine before their eyes, they can’t see you. All they see is what they want to see or what they can see.

Listen! Never! I mean Never do anything for anybody at the DETRIMENT of YOUR OWN SELF. That is great wickedness to your own soul.

If you don’t love your own self, who can be selfless enough to love you for you? I mean who should even be? You, the owner of your own self don’t love yourself, you put other people’s needs above yours, yet you expect or trust that someone else will be able to love you more and better than you could for yourself? Oh come on babe.

If a person asks you to do something for them, which will bring to you some inconveniences, please gracefully decline. No shade! You owe nobody nothing. You are the steward of your life, and as such, you MUST to let your life be a good one.

Let’s assume your leg was broken, and needed healing, yet somebody came to you asking you to play on their football team later in the evening. What would you say this person is? A Wicked, and selfish person. Right?

Well, should you go ahead and play the match FOR the person, amidst the severe pain your body is experiencing, what would that make you? A wicked and unthoughtful person. Right? Why? Because you didn’t care about your ailing leg. You know that playing in a match with a broken leg will only make things worse for you, why then didn’t you decline the offer until you got better. CHOOSE YOU!

Focusing primarily on making the other person happy is not what the good Lord admonished us from his Word to do. He said, “Love your neighbor AS YOURSELF.’ You are to love yourself. Give yourself some love. Enough of all those pain. Let them be gone and embrace the good near you.

Listen, if people wouldn’t be thoughtful enough to consider your needs, and convenience, then you are NOT under any obligation to be loyal to them. Don’t throw your pearls before pigs.

#when women get it right, the world will be right.

Don’t put other people’s happiness or conveniences ABOVE yours.

If whatever they are asking you to do brings you discomfort, please DECLINE!

Always remember that the Holy Bible says, Love your neighbor AS (not more than or less than)yourself (the standard, the measure).

Stay Blessed.

Amen.