What comes to your mind when you hear all these three combined?

What does the Word do?

What does sex do?

What is the importance of food?

Did I hear you say, Growth?

Yes, you are right. The Word, Sex, and food produces growth in us. But how does it happen? Where does the growth happen? I will tell you in a short while.

As humans, we need the Word, sex and food. Just as we are a trio, this trio help us tremendously and meet every need of ours. It doesn’t mean we become religious, sex addicts, or gluttons. No! Rather, all these come together to produce growth in us.

The Word of God is needed for our spiritual growth. As humans, we are not mere men or “clay products”. We are spirit-beings. And as spirit beings, our nutritious food is the Word of God. Nothing else!

“Like newborn babies you should crave (thirst for, earnestly desire) the pure (unadulterated) spiritual milk, that by it you may be nurtured and grow unto [completed] salvation, since you have [already] tasted the goodness and kindness of the Lord.” _ 1 Peter 2:2-3 AMP.

Sex is a vital tool in the growth of man. It is not intended for only procreation. Its pleasure brings fulfillment and growth in an individual. We should note that just like chewing bones is not recommended or good for babies, sex is recommended ONLY for the married. There is no two way or fence about this. SEX IS FOR ONLY MARRIED COUPLES.

That said, let me tell you the importance of sex, and how it helps you grow. Man is a spirit, has a soul and lives in a body. Just as the Word of God primarily feeds the spirit, sex feeds the soul (emotional space) of a human.

Even though a person can purposely choose to go sexless for life; which is okay too, a “complete” human being needs sex to grow. He/she needs the sexual pleasure, and intercourse to keep him afloat emotionally. He needs to touch someone in other to feel loved; he needs someone to ‘offer’ herself to him in other to feel accepted. Denying him of sex feels like abandonment and neglect to his soul: It makes him feel unworthy. I know this wasn’t the message you wanted to tell him, other than you are just tired. But girl, frequent Nos makes his soul malnourished.

The lady wants someone to touch her, and squeeze any stress out of her soul; she wants someone to work so well on her emotionally that she begins to scream their names like it was a confession unto salvation; she wants him to have time for her, and navigate every sexual contour of her body; she doesn’t want him to just thrust his hungry ‘spoon’ into her bowl. No! That would immediately make her feel used or feel like a sex object.

You see how the misappropriation of sex speaks volumes to a person’s soul?

Now, say the man and woman have good sex, what do you think happens to both of them? Can you tell me any signs you would see on them? I am sure you can tell me a dozen. Some of the signs you are likely to see from a good ‘sexed’ person is that they glow, they seem youthful, they are full of life, they seem happy almost every time, they are less irritable, they are tolerant, they don’t fuss about life too much, they don’t stress, they don’t feel depressed or abandoned, and they love beautifully.  

If these signs aren’t the signs of (emotional) growth, then I don’t know what they are.

Now, let’s go on to food. The importance of food may seem so obvious. A person may decide to go without food for many (healthy) reasons, like fasting, meditation, etc. All these is for growth too. But let’s look at someone who eats healthily, what are some of the (growth) signs we would see in them?

The person who eats healthily rarely becomes sick, he is healthy, happy, and worry less; he has energy to do work, he is playful or ‘approachable’, he is not often irritable or angry (a hungry man is an angry man). Overall, he is happy.

So, looking at all these, the Word, sex, and food, we would see that they produce good growth in us, and also make us happy overall.

Therefore, the next time you think of skipping any of these; THE WORD, SEX, OR FOOD, know that you are making yourself malnourished spiritually, emotionally or physically.

And whenever you find yourself doing any of these activities; reading the Bible, having sex, or eating a good meal, don’t see them as ‘work’, rather, know that you are happily contributing to your own growth.

Stay Blessed.

I Love You.