Men, may I ask you something really quick? If you were crowned as a king, would you mishandle your crown? Would you keep your crown anyhow? Would you willingly dent your crown because you were angry at something? And also, would you respect any man who calls himself a king, but has no crown?

If you would not, then why do you want to be treated as a king when you have no crown on your head?

            Why do you mishandle the crown God has put on your head just because you think you have money and influence now?    

                        Do you really understand why God (the All-knowing and All-powerful God) said that it wasn’t good for the man to be alone? Have you come to the understanding of this truth?

I am sure you haven’t yet. Because if you have, your actions and demeanor towards your wife would have changed for the better, not worse.

Let me tell you something my honourable gentlemen; a woman, or let me say a wife is your crown. If you have a wife, then you are a crowned king, if you don’t have a wife, then you are NOT a king, and cannot be treated as a King. If you are NOT married, don’t EXPECT any woman to submit to you, because you are NOT her husband/head. That said, let me proceed to tell you the revelation here.

Every married man, every husband is a King and should be treated as such by his wife: “WIVES submit to your OWN HUSBANDS as unto the LORD!” Every wife is a PRICELESS CROWN of her husband. As a crown, she enthrones or dethrones kings. It is not surprising that before a man marries a woman, he asks her to marry him while he is on one knee. That shows respect!.

Husbands, did you know that it is written in the Bible that you shouldn’t cover your “garment (your wife)” with violence? [Malachi 2:15-16 AMP] Did you also know that the Bible says that you shouldn’t maltreat your wife, lest your prayers will be hindered and cut off? [1 Peter 3:7 AMP]. There is a reason why God brought Eve (woman) to Adam (man), there is a reason why God created the woman.

Gentlemen, let me ask you this please: As a man, can you give birth? No matter the billions of sperms you may have, if you don’t have a wife to add her goodness (her eggs), then those semen will just be like spilled milk (wasted). And should you have children my gentlemen, do you have the breasts or mammary glands to nourish them? Do you know how much sacrifice and work it takes to carry a child for 9 months? And do you know that it is even a risk which could cause a woman her life?

Besides these traditional benefits, do you know that a woman has been gifted with the sense of intuition, and that not everything can be proven with logical evidence as you would expect, but rather intuitive proof or feeling can also be a good evidence? Do you remember what happened the last time when you didn’t listen to your wife? How did it make you feel? I am sure that you not listening to your wife made you feel in control, and powerful, yet, the result was a mess. You failed at what you had in mind to do!

Gentlemen, would you please help me understand this:  How is it that, you decided to marry a woman, make her your wife, give her your surname, trust her with your sperms to give you a child, and yet you don’t respect her opinions and suggestions; you think that her opinions don’t matter? You don’t think that she is intelligent enough to give you counsel? If this is the case, then why did you marry her? Why did you put your name on her? I mean, would you be okay being in a company where your name is on the list of employees, but your opinions, suggestions and what have you is not regarded? I mean, other people’s opinions are at least heard, but you are told to shut up always. How will that make you feel? Wouldn’t you feel stupid, even though you know you aren’t stupid? Wouldn’t you feel left out and disrespected? Would your stay in that company be long if things remain the same? I bet not.

If this will be your response to this company situation, then why do you expect your wife to still stay with you when you don’t regard her, when you make her feel stupid and left out? Or do you think you married a stupid, unintelligent woman? If yes, then that is on you; that is a reflection of yourself, because it was your choice.

God brought a woman into your life to help you move forward. It was for a productivity reason. What are you doing currently, husband? Are you just occupying the couch, and not using your brains for anything innovative and creative? You are supposed to be inventive dear gentleman. You are supposed to be visionary, so that the woman would come along with her grace and help push you. The further you go, the further she goes too. Someone pushing you to a greater height shouldn’t be seen far away from the level which you are on. If your helper, your wife is far away from the level which you are on now, then how strong will her push be to you? Null and void!

Cultivate your wife so that she would become more productive to help you too as well as help herself.

Someone helping you climb a tree should be closer to you. Someone helping you climb a rock or mountain shouldn’t be found at the bottom of the mountain while you are almost at the top. No! She should be found closer, by you in other to continue to help you till you get to your destination of vision or goal.

If you maltreat a woman (your crown), then you are telling the clouds of witness (the world) that you aren’t a king, and don’t deserve to be treated/seen as a king. If you say, you are a king, then where is your crown (your wife)? What is the current state of your crown (your wife)? Dirty? Rejected and abused? Dented? Covered with violence, doubt, pain, hurt, and disrespect? Is this the crown you have put on your head? Oh no! You can do better my dear.

Husbands, please, always remember that a woman, your wife is YOUR PRICELESS GOLDEN CROWN. How you treat her, nourish her, cultivate her, and build her shows how long your REIGN will be; it’s either till death do you apart, or till you are forcefully dethroned. Your Choice!

Stay Blessed, and Stay Wise. PEACE!