Scientifically, it is known that if a man doesn’t bond with you mentally and in his heart, having sex with you is just an act to him.

But should he bond with you mentally, and in his heart, when he has sex with you, it goes beyond just an act for him. He releases oxytocin which is the bonding hormone.

Oxytocin is not released in a man when he has casual sex with a lady. In other words, it means you, that woman is just like a piece of wood with a hole….sorry.

Logically, what is the trade-off here? As a lady, if you have sex with your boyfriend, you have given him ALL of you. What else would you have to “bargain” for marriage?

Among the whites, casual sex is a common thing. But it is not so with an African man of an African culture. Sex is a big deal and a great honour for a man.

If he “works” for it, he treasures it. But if he gets it like a cheap gift, he doesn’t value it.

Besides, a man can get more money, but can a woman get more virginity?

So why are you trading your virginity for his “wealth”?

Why don’t you trade his money for your company, friendship, counsel, smiles, etc. You can get more friendships, more smiles, etc. But you can’t get more virginity girl. Wise up!

Moreover, if you give him your friendship, counsel, good company, and sweet smiles, he bonds with you greater. He will begin to see you as HIS girl, not as just any girl.

In this case, should you two get married, he will treasure you.

Spiritually, having sex with your boyfriend is Sin. It is fornication, and God hates it. He says, “FLEE FROM SEXUAL IMMORALITY…” [1 Corinthians 6:18]

So why would you want to have a union which God has cursed or hates?

In conclusion, I hope these three (3) reasons; scientifically, logically, and spiritually, will be able to convince you enough to stay chaste.

Treasure yourself. Treasure your body, and keep it for your King; the Honourable man who is WORTHY to have ALL of you.

Don’t let the “culture” pollute you.

#YOU ARE A TREASURE.