Does this statement sound triggering?

Don’t worry, and don’t make any offence. Rather listen. When wisdom speaks, the only thing which feels triggering is ignorance. But today, you are going to get rid of that ignorance and get wisdom.

Let me ask you this. What is the title of a King’s wife? What is the title of a president’s wife? And what is the title of a drunkard’s wife?

Assuming all the men above are good, but have these titles, King, president, drunkard, which of them will you like to be married to? The drunkard? Absolutely not.

Listen, your husband is your boss. If you see things this way, your marriage will be enjoyable to you.

Men NEED respect, but often times, when great men marry women, these women over time become very casual with their husbands, almost not respecting them anymore.

I am not saying that don’t be casual or playful with your husband. No! You should be playful with your husband. He will love it. But he will love being respected more.

Is your husband respected at his workplace? Respect him at home too.

If your husband is a doctor, see him as such even at home. And be grateful that the doctor is playful with you, the doctor has sex with you.

Don’t let the nakedness of your husband which you see stripe you of any respect you had for him before.

No! The Bible says that the two were naked and unashamed. It didn’t say the two were naked and disrespected.

When you begin to see your husband in his title, your respect for him goes up, you tend to appreciate him more. This was the wisdom Queen Esther applied.

Queen Vashti missed it. She became casual with her husband the King and dared to disrespect his orders. We all know what this ‘small mistake’ caused Queen Vashti.

Let’s see what Queen Esther did differently: Even though the King was Esther’s husband, when Esther had a situation which needed the king’s attention, she didn’t just show up to her husband with her request. No! She still saw her husband as the King. And according to the laws of the land, NOBODY approaches the king without having been called.

Esther knew this and respected this. When she finally approached the king, she was willing to die for ‘breaking the rules’.

If it were you, you would have felt entitled and walked to your ‘husband’ anyway. After all, he is your husband, and you both are ‘equals’. Right? Wrong!

Your husband as a man (Adam) was introduced to a job first before he was introduced to you (Eve). In fact, he was comfortable with being at work, before God said it was not good for him to be alone, and then you came.

Respect his job. Call him by his work title sometimes. Not every day should you use babe, and those jargons. No! Make him realize that you appreciate his job too.

The action or reaction a wife gives to her husband speaks volumes and goes deeper into his soul than you think.

Wise wife, call your husband Dr. sometimes. Call him boss sometimes. Not always daddy, babe, honey, etc. No! The more you call your husband by his work title, the more you are likely to respect him.

If your husband is a pastor or bishop, don’t leave that title to those outside alone. He strived to get that title (with its financial benefit) for you and the family. Call him Apostle sometimes. Don’t call him his titles only when you want to manipulate him. No! If you do that, he will associate that title with the bad feelings of manipulation, and he wouldn’t like it.

Call him Apostle, Doc, Ing, Esq, etc. even when you two are having sex. Moan with his title. Just respect him. Don’t become too casual with your husband such that even as the president of a country he doesn’t feel big around you. Rather, he always has to bow his head like a little boy caught stealing. No!

Don’t leave your husband to the world. Don’t let your husband crave recognition from outsiders. No! You are his flesh. If your husband is the president, you are the first lady automatically. If your husband is a king, you are a queen my dear. If your husband is up high, you are up high too.

Just like Christ and the bride of Christ, the church. The church is seated far above principalities and powers not because the church did anything per se. But because her husband is up there, so she is also seated with him up high.

Recognize the sovereignty of your husband. This will make him love you more, and strife to be the best for you always.

Respecting your man and recognizing him will not take anything away from you. Rather, it makes you big/worthy too.

Before you ask me to talk to the men also, let me say that this inspiration came for only the women for now. Let’s consume it and make the world a better place…. You hypocrite.