Let me ask you this; when you tell your child that you don’t have money, will that prevent his stomach from getting hungry? No? Should he out of dire hunger go to steal food, would you call your child a thief? If you would, who do you think made him a thief?

Okay, tell me, if your wife tells you that her mother didn’t teach her how to cook meals, so even though she is your wife, she can’t cook for you. But she will wash your clothes and clean the house. Would you be okay with that?

If you wouldn’t, then why are you telling your child that your father didn’t teach you how to hug, or love so you don’t know how to love him/her?

Why are you expecting your child to accept this excuse of yours, but you will not be willing to accept a wife who doesn’t know how to cook?

Becoming a parent puts you on a whole different level. And every level comes with some expectations and responsibilities. You can’t be a parent and still act like a boy or a girl. No! You are now a mom; you are now a father.

Tell me, if you pay a teacher to teach your child, but whenever you go to your child’s school, you see your child teaching his own self, or just learning his books, while the teacher is seated idle in class, would you clap for that teacher and tell him to continue, or would you get angry and withdraw your child from that teacher?

Do you see that because that man is a teacher, you have some expectations and responsibilities for him, which when he doesn’t do, will make you angry.

Father, don’t tell your child that because your father didn’t teach you nor show you how to be affectionate, you don’t know and cannot be affectionate towards her.

No! That is wrong. Just like your wife’s scenario, go and learn how. Don’t go and learn it from your father who didn’t teach you in the first place. Go and learn it from someone you admire, someone who has done it well.

If you wouldn’t accept your wife not cooking for you, then your child cannot accept you not loving her and being proud of him.

Remember that your child is a human being: He is a spirit, has a soul, and lives in a body.

Your child is not just a body, but a corpse is just a body. The reason why your child is not a corpse is because he has a soul and spirit.

While you give the body food, make sure to provide for his soul too.

Fathers, let me ask you one more time. If your wife cooks, cleans, and washes well for you, but doesn’t have sex with you, would you enjoy the marriage? Of course not. Right? Sex is an emotional need. Sex is a need of your soul. So in spite of your wife cooking well, cleaning and washing perfectly, you still need her to give you her body at night, or when you desire sex.

In the same way, know that in spite of all the food, and school fees you pay, which is good, your children still needs love, they need your support, they need those things which money can’t buy, they need your good words of encouragement. Your boys need you to tell them that you are proud of them. They need you to lead them, and be an example for them. Your girl child needs you to show her what love is. She needs you to model how a man should treat her.

If you don’t give your children these soul needs, they will be pushed to find it elsewhere. And usually, those elsewhere aren’t good places. Usually, those places are gangs, fraud boys, area boys, etc.

If you don’t want your daughter mishandled by a jobless area boy, or a cheating married man, then give your daughter what her soul needs. Be the one to fill her emotional tank up.

If you don’t know how, ask God for wisdom.

If you don’t know how, find a role model and learn from.

You MUST train your child in the way he should go.

You MUST train your child in the way of the LORD. The way of the Lord is love.

Dear father, if God is love, and you say you worship and fear him, then you must know how to love your children, and your wife. Father, your son needs your attention, else a Delilah somewhere will cut his glory short.

When a child is a baby to about 3 years old, he NEEDS his mother more.

When a child is about 3 years to 12 years, he NEEDS his father more.

When a child hits his teenage years, he will LISTEN more to his peers.

Note I said more, not only.

Father, make sure that before your child hits 13, you have filled him with good morals, much wisdom and so much love, and support. Else, he will seek all these things from his peers, and I can assure you that your child will be at home with you physically, but his soul is gone with his peers.

The Bible says that what shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul? If you give your children all the toys, food, water, shelter, cars, etc in the world, but don’t show love to them, don’t feed their soul, what profit is that?

Mothers, you can’t do it all. Even if you think you have money, you can’t do it all.

It wasn’t your money which impregnated you. It was a strong man with a good seed which did, so STOP making it so hard for this father to get close to his children. STOP painting this father black before the child.

After all, if you paint this father black, then you who opened your legs to him is ‘black-er’.

Come on. The world is tough already. Let’s not make it tougher.

Why are we trying to live in this world without God?

            Why are we trying to live this life without following God’s principles?

                        If your money didn’t make you pregnant, or didn’t give birth to your child for you, then let there be peace between the procreators.

The Bible says that we should let our LIGHT shine before men, that they may see our GOOD WORKS and GLORIFY OUR FATHER in heaven.

Where is your light father?

Where is your light mother?

Is your light shining in Judea (in your home, and among your children)?

Are your children and family feeling your light, or are you rushing outside to Samaria, and Jerusalem while your house in Judea is in total darkness?

You hypocrite. First light up your home. First remove the log in your eyes, in your family, before you go and remove the speck in people’s eyes.

Love your child.

Love your neighbour as yourself.

Your child is your neighbour so LOVE HIM

Your wife is your neighbour, so LOVE HER

Your husband is your neighbour so LOVE HIM.

God bless you. Amen.