Women should be aware that a man first scans her before he approaches. He continues to scan her till he hits his mark or gives up.
I believe there are so many vital considerations women do not take into reflection when they are being pursued, and this makes them victims of their prey (those men).

The Points Below Are What Most Women Do In Their Daily Encounter With Men Who Approach Them. And These Mostly Goes Against Them In The Long Run.
1. Most Women Focus More On The Appearance Of A Man Than What He Tells Her.
First and foremost, appearance should always be considered, but how should we consider it? Fashionably, we are not the same but the way one dresses speaks more about him. Hence, instead of focusing on how expensive his cloths are; the sneakers, his chains, phone etc, ask yourself these questions: Why is he is looking too expensive? Is he trying to let me know he has an expensive phone? Why different porch cars anytime he approaches me? He is too simple, is there something he is hiding from me or is that how he actually is? Etc. All these should be considered and taken seriously because, it speaks more about the guy approaching you.

Now concerning his words:
A man’s words are very powerful and charming to ladies.
NOTE: Most men rehearse their words or think about what to say before they approach you.
They craft their words in a way that will please you. And if it does please you, the probability of winning you is high.

The problem is, most women don’t pay attention to details, they take the sensitive parts of a man’s words/”rap” which are dear to them or which means to her that, the guy is serious to date her. Such words are mostly “I really love you, I will marry you, you are my world, I want to spend my life making and nurturing babies with you, I always see you in my dreams, I will provide all your needs just name them etc”.
Pay attention to what the dude is saying my ladies. Check his mannerisms, his accent even, and his gestures.
Come on ladies, the guy wouldn’t say those sweet things if he doesn’t want to sweep you off your feet. It is because he sees you attractive or needed that is why he “rehearsed” so hard to approach you.
Don’t get carried away by his rehearsed words. Well, you can appreciate him for his effort, but get wise. Be vigilant like the serpent as the Bible admonishes us to.
If you “weren’t good enough” he wouldn’t have approached you in the first place. So now that he has seen beauty and wants to get hold of beauty, beauty shouldn’t rush but add wisdom and vigilance to herself, in order to get or be involved in something worthy.
But for the record, whether u are “beautiful” or not, a guy can approach you for so many reasons. Hence, the need to pay attention to the details of his words to you and not just the sensory, or sexual or romantic part of it. APPLY WISDOM MY DARLING. [“The fear of the Lord, is the beginning of wisdom” _ Proverbs 1:7].
 

2. Most Women Do Not Ask The Men That Approach Them QUESTIONS.
For instance, when a man meets you somewhere, he asks for your name, where you live, where you work or school, your contact, your hometown etc. This man leaves having a general knowledge about you, and this helps him TO PLAN HIS NEXT APPROACH TOWARDS YOU.
Mostly, women answer almost all these questions asked by the men without EVEN ASKING THE MEN ANY QUESTION at all…Oh my darling! Why?
Hence, most women go home with little or no knowledge/basic information about the men that took their contacts or approached them during the day.
Again, the motive behind a guy asking you basic questions is to help him plan some “attack” against you; whether positive or negative. You being dumb/acting dumb leaves you exposed, whiles the guy advances on you fast.
Most times this makes the guys win.
I see it quite strange to ask a lady her name, and she doesn’t bothers to even ask your name too.
Note, the questions you ask him will guide you in the course of time.

    3. Some Women Do Not Scan Every Environment They Find Themselves In:
As a lady, you should know that the probability of being approached by a man is high in every new environment you find yourself in. Whether in the workplace, church, choir, where you live, school, hostel etc, bear in mind that a man in that environment is scanning you, and sooner or later he will approach you. Therefore, my ladies, you should also scan the environment. This helps you to know the general behavior of the men in the locality, past history of some, the married men, the heart breakers etc. This involves being observant and applying point 1 and 2 when being approached in a new environment.

           4. Don’t Play Hard To Catch, Rather, Play Smart To Catch:
The general intuition by most ladies is that when you play ‘easy to get’ the man will not take you seriously; he will consider you a cheap girl.

To you, a serious man is the one that tolerates your ‘nonsense: playing hard to get’ and does not give up in his pursue of you. These are all good ideas, but there is more to the ideology.
FOR INSTANCE, (i) the social relationship men have with their peers or friends is very strong.
Male friends try to help their friends in diverse ways. When a guy is approaching a lady and finds it difficult winning her, the next step the guy takes is to inform his friends/peers about this situation. The friends upon hearing this tend to advice or give him strategies to assist him win her. Some friends go to the extent of doing a background checks on the girl, and they will feed their friend with the information they get in order to support him WIN THE GIRL.

Note Also That: Men are supportive when it comes to helping a friend win a girl. Although they will tease their friend when things don’t go well, they are mostly ready to still offer supportive strategies to aid their friend go for a ‘second war’. A guy can give his car, room, house, anything, to his friend just to impress a lady.

I can boldly say that, most of these supportive strategies are never the best. Thus, depending on the friends/peers, they will offer strategies to make him win and sleep with her or win and dump her, or win and make her feel pains in the relationship or win and later tell her ‘I don’t love you anymore: the love is gone’ etc.
                (ii) Another aspect under this point is, most times when a lady plays ‘hard to catch’ and ends up stretching the guy, most guys mostly move from a state of deeply loving you to a state of trying to win you.
The state of trying to win you fades his love for you, and all that follows are what he will do to make you say YES to his proposal.
Generally, when at the end, the lady says ‘Yes’, everything becomes boring to the guy (Most of them will tell their friends, “After all, she has accepted. After acting as if she didn’t love me”). This is because the love he had for you has faded and so saying YES means nothing so dear to him anymore. He sees it as, “well, so, after all she has accepted.”

NOTE; A bad guy at this stage may try to pay you back by hurting you.

In conclusion, ‘playing hard to catch’ most times does not yield the right results no matter how much you stretched the guy for years.

In case after 2 years you two shared good times together, HE WILL STILL TELL HIS FRIENDS THERE IS NOTHING SPECIAL ABOUT YOU. 

Besides, all womanizers know that women will try to play hard to get, hence their usual faith in their NEVER GIVE UP ADAGE which is (keep pursuing her, be focus, she will say yes).

LEARN TO PLAY ‘SMART TO CATCH’. It makes men appreciate you same way it makes you, the lady learn more about the man pursing you. Playing ‘smart to catch’ simply means, the lady taking front role in the proposal. That is, participating in his interactions with you, ASKING HIM CRITICAL QUESTIONS that will make him try to lie to please you. If he is a cool guy you know you Love,GET TO KNOW HIM BETTER BEFORE YOU ACCEPT HIS PROPOSAL. DON’T RUSH AND SAY YES TO HIS PROPOSAL WITH LITTLE OR INTANGIBLE KNOWLEDGE ABOUT HIM.

After all, LOVE IS PATIENT and KIND [1 Corinthians 13:4]

If he says he can’t wait, let him go. Or, are you thinking, nobody will come after you when he leaves? Well, that may be your situation if you are worldly (that is; on your own with no heavenly support). But if you are a baby to God(child of God) and God is your father, he will not bring or allow any guy “torment/torture” your peace with “rushed proposals” and marriages.
If his word says, love is patient, then it makes sense to say, LOVE CAN WAIT. If it can’t wait, then that may be lust or infatuation, and these two (lust and infatuation) DON’T LAST or STAND THE TEST OF TIME.

Which will you go for? _ Waiting for the best who will be with you throughout the years of marriage till death puts you apart, or will you go for the one who will be with you at most 10 years or less, and tell you, “I have fallen out of love for you”? leaving you single again at an age which is too scary for a second marriage to much younger guys or too old men?

“What if my good husband dies at after 10 years or maybe of our marriage together?” You may ask.

To answer that, I tell you, if God chose or allowed the first to marry you, he will choose, and prepare a second one for you. Pray to him asking, and believe.

Amen.
LOVE IS KIND, and LOVE IS PATIENT. Take note!

IN SUMMARY:

Below are the steps or points women should take note when men approach them;
1. Ask him questions/ pay attention to the details of his messages, not feelings/emotions. Check his appearance and demeanor.
2. Scan your environment to be able to have a fair idea about the type of guys around and who they may be, if you can.
3. Don’t play ‘hard to get’ but rather play, ‘SMART TO CATCH’ by applying the points we have given you in point 1 and 2.
Amen

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WRITTEN BY: Papa Yaw Otis.
EDITED BY: Augustina Wubah.
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