(If you have found purpose, you have it all)

(Jesus and his family)

“F*ck family!”

How did your heart react/respond when you read the above line? I know, I know… I am sorry for letting your heart skip a beat.

But seriously, for a long time, family has been seen as the gold ore in everybody’s life. Thus, if you have a good one, you are rich, and if you don’t, no matter how rich you are, you are poor. Because your riches are material, but family is immaterial and full of substance.

This is true. I mean, for a long time, I have thought same, until today.

“What happened today?” You may ask.

Well, it is not about what happened today, but what was revealed to me today. It was revealed that family for a long time has been over-exaggerated. Like education, family is good, but it is not THE key to fulfillment. It is just one of the keys. Probably, even the smallest key.

The key to fulfillment is PURPOSE. Yes, you heard right: PURPOSE!

Family is a unit you belong to. You didn’t choose its members. Everything was automatic. Whether they would be a bunch of ass or a bed of roses, you don’t know, and may not be able to control. But I tell you what, your purpose, has already been preprogrammed. And unlike family, your purpose is good, you have control over it, it feeds you what your hard work deserves. It puts you on the map, and prints your footprints in the sand of time.

YOUR PURPOSE IS YOUR FRIEND.

Family has been over-exaggerated. You can do without it. And besides, you don’t need “blood-related” relations to prosper. You are to love your family. But you need to love your Purpose more, because it is the REAL DEAL.

As you pursue purpose, should family see your worth by chance or by miracle and decides to COMPORT itself and follow you, or help you, then cool, why not? But you are not insufficient. Mind you!

#PURPOSE BEFORE FAMILY. Yes, I know you haven’t really seen this arrangement before, and it even feels like an abomination to think about it, but it is the truth; Purpose before Family!

Family was the vessel through which you came to earth, and we thank them. But your purpose is the REASON why you are on earth; unearth it!

If you have discovered your purpose, blessed are you. Pursue it like you would a lover. Love it, and feed on it like you would to your beloved’s breasts or bosom. Don’t neglect it or let it go. Don’t put family before it, or let family convince you against it.

Once you discover purpose, family comes second on the hierarchy of importance.

This statement may make people cringe, but hold on, I will prove it to you: Our savior Lord Jesus was destined to come on earth, and bring the Father’s will to mankind. At the end of it all, he will die for his bride, the church, and resurrect on the third to seal the victory of the church over Satan.

From his birth, this purpose was known. His mom, and dad knew it. However, let’s see what family did. When the boy Jesus stayed behind in Jerusalem listening and speaking with the teachers of the law for three days, his mother and father, came back and scorned him for letting THEM feel what they felt. But the boy Jesus reminded them of his purpose. [My purpose first Ma].

During the wedding at Cana, again, family wanted to interrupt the timing of purpose, but Jesus had to remind her, “Woman, my time (to act) has not yet come.” [Thus, don’t try to run my purpose (timeline) for me.]

While he was teaching his disciples and other followers, his mother and brothers came around to speak with him. When he was told of their presence, he told those seated there that his mother and brothers are his disciples who do his Father’s will.

Jesus was Pro-Purpose. Purpose before anything. If you try to interrupt purpose, you would be put in your place. But if you come along like the current of a river, you would have a cruise with us, our purpose, and everything we’ve got. Thus, purpose is the standard and the master.

Someone may ask, “What if I get lonely, or what if I lose my family?”

Yes, you will get lonely, and you will lose family, but be of happy cheer, because that has been sorted out. [And anyone and everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or lands for my name’s sake WILL RECEIVE MANY [even a hundred] times more and will inherit eternal life.” _ Matthew 19:29 AMP]

“After this, many of His disciples drew back (returned to their old associations) and no longer accompanied Him. Jesus said to the Twelve, Will you also go away? [And do you too desire to leave me?]”_ John 6:66-67 AMP.

When you are pursuing purpose, be ready and willing to let family, and friends go if need be. If you try to hold onto them, as you are holding onto your purpose, YOU WILL COMPROMISE.

Family is not everything, especially the extended family. If they despise you, don’t lose heart. You will soon marry and create your own. Or better still, you have got something which no one can take away from you. And that is your purpose. If you are faithful to it, IT WILL FEED YOU, IT WOULD CLOTHE YOU, IT WILL COMFORT YOU, IT WILL SET YOU APART, AND PUT YOUR NAME ON THE MAP. And above all, IT WILL GIVE YOU FULFILLMENT, and draw you closer to the one you love most, Your Heavenly Father.

To address the issue of loneliness, loneliness is relative: The carpenter will always need the timber operator, the teacher will always need the author, the singer will always need his instrumentalists, the actor will always need his audience, or the film maker will always need his actors.

Thus, once you are walking in PURPOSE, you will not necessarily be lonely. Purpose is like a food chain; we are interconnected. Pursue your purpose and you will see how like magnet it will attract other purposefully aligned people to you.

Jesus’ brothers didn’t believe in him, yet, when he began to walk in his purpose, he was surrounded by TWELVE FAITHFUL DISCIPLES except one. How many were Jesus’ brothers? My dear, get your perspective right.

Your purpose is who you are, it is your being. And the people it draws to you are your actual family. “I do not call you servants (slaves) any longer for the servant does not know what his master is doing (working out). BUT I HAVE CALLED YOU MY FRIENDS, because I have made known to you everything that I have heard from My Father. [I have revealed to you everything that I have learned from Him.]” _ John 15:15 AMP.

I tell you, Rejoice! Pursue your purpose fervently, and you wouldn’t even notice your surroundings to even think you are lonely. You would be so fulfilled that fake crowd wouldn’t  entice you anymore.

Some will say, “I would rather have a fake crowd than be lonely.” I say, you haven’t found your purpose yet. What is missing in your life is THE FIRE OF YOUR PURPOSE. If you should find it, you will be warm.

Family is good I will say, but purpose is far better.

PURPOSE will never leave you nor forsake you.

PURPOSE will get you closer to God.

PURPOSE will make your life more meaningful and fulfilling.

PURPOSE will make your name relevant.

PURPOSE will make your life very useful to others.

PURPOSE, like magnet will draw great men (with the magnetic property of goodness, and fulfillment) to you.

How much can family do?

If your family is spilled, don’t cry over it. PURPOSE will get you a new one.

If the family is being an ass right now, let them be. Hold on to your PURPOSE (if you have found it. If not, search for it. find it.) and love on it. IT WILL BRING YOU PERFECT PEACE.

If after many years your family has now seen the Light (our Lord Jesus Christ) and now want to be straight, they can join the ship. By then, you would have had a good sail. You wouldn’t have been waiting on them to be right first, wasting many years in the end.

Moreover, if from the start, family has been good, DON’T LET IT ENTICE YOU to neglect your purpose. Humans die, but Purpose live forever. Let that good family be a follower, while your purpose lead your way. Peace!

I say again, family is good, but PURPOSE IS FAR BETTER.

#PURPOSE over family.

#if you have found PURPOSE, then that is MOST of all you need.